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Let’s Talk About Body Image

Tell me what you like about yourself and your looks.

Tell me what you dislike about yourself and your looks.

 

I bet you it is easier for you to answer the 2nd statement than the 1st.

Why is that ? Why is it so much easier to focus on the negatives than the positives? Especially when it comes to our bodies and how we perceive them ?

 

The beginning of every year has just about all of us focused on losing weight or getting fit.  Our most common resolution is ” To fix ourselves”.  I have found more and more that my thinking was wrong on the subject.  If a skinny person told me that they ” need to lose 10 lbs” or ” I’m so fat” or something like that , my usual response was ” I wish I was fat like that ” or ” I wish I only had 10 lbs to lose”.  My thought was, this person looks great, I would be so happy if I looked like them.  It really never occurred to me, that they are unhappy with themselves.  And who the hell am I to judge that , or be jealous?

We all have shit we want to work on, in some way or another.  Some of us, want that to be our looks.  Be it our size, our hair, our face, it doesn’t matter.  We need to stop judging and just let everyone be themselves .  Embrace that people want to change themselves for reasons that would make them happy.

Take this whole Bruce Jenner stuff going on at the moment.  What ever is going on in Bruce’s life, its not our business. Regardless if they make a life in the public eye, what they want to do or be – its not the public’s call.  Let Bruce be Bruce. Whoever that may be.

Then there is static about a plus size model in Sports Illustrated.  Come on folks!  People over a size 10 need a bathing suit too!

 

Why do we care so much ?

 

It all goes back to Body Image and what we want to be and how we see ourselves.

 

I have always had a negative image of myself.  I really don’t know why, but I have.  Let’s go over how crazy I am.

 

This is me as a baby with me momma.  Prob 1981 . I have issues . I think I look like  a monkey baby here.

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Meg and Mum 1981

Here I am in High School.  This is where I thought I was fat.  All size 7 , 128 lbs of me.

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High School

High School was really where I felt the worst, all by my own doing.  I mean seriously, I thought I was fat here.  What the hell was the matter with me?  If only I could go back.  But I can’t , I made this bed, and I am through lying in it.  This was my goal picture.  But I have to be realistic,  I am 34 years old, not 17 anymore.  It’s time I focus on being the best me that I can be, today.  Not best me from 1997.  It has taken me so long to get that through my head.

So here I am today.  Working on myself and trying to get back to get to a place where I am happy with myself.

215 Lbs Baby!!!
215 Lbs Deadlift Baby!!!

Its a journey as you all know.  I think I have grown, not only stronger physically, but mentally since I made this decision to do something about myself. I keep swimming.  Keep going.

 

I started back working out in January , and I am down 5 lbs!

Its slow and steady to win that race.   There are no quick fixes and there are going to be set backs.  I think we all need to get out of our own heads.  I will get there.  And you will too.

We need to focus on happiness within ourselves instead of what we look like.

Everyone no matter the size has something they don’t like, I am working on liking all my parts and making them what I want .  We should be who we want, how we want and we shouldn’t care what anyone thinks.

I know that is not easy.  But maybe we are all a work in progress through our lives, instead of a finished product.  Always room to grow.

 

So I ask all of you now, Tell me what you like about yourself.  Share it! Shout it from the rooftops!  Be you ! Embrace all of your qualities!

Let’s get out there and change the world.  WE can do it. One mindset at a time.

 

Don’t forget to check me out on my  Facebook Page  = Less Thighs More Thunder .     I post little things over there too.

 

We are all awesome. Sometimes we just need to be reminded of that.

Spread the Awesome.

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You gotta make the time to Commit to You!

Last week was very busy for me, and this week proves to be just as busy – culminating at the end with the wedding of my good friends, Andrea and Lowell. So, knowing I will be stuffing my face with all sorts of goodies and most likely being drunk as a skunk, I damn well better make sure I get my workouts in.

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No matter how busy we are, we always have enough time to make excuses.  I should know because I always had an excuse about why I could not work out or why I could not do something. I was famous for not having the right things lined up.  I felt I needed to have things a certain way to best optimize my process.  And when things would go wrong, it would totally knock me off my game. It would set me back and I could not move on.  What a load of crap!  UGH!

Why was I like that?  Why are any of us like that?  I can’t be the only one that struggles or else you wouldn’t be here reading this, lol.

Why is it so easy  to put things off that will actually help us?  And not just for us, but out loved ones?

For me, my weight just kept going up and going up and going up.  I would bitch and moan and kinda do something, but really half assed. I would not put in the work to change what I was bitching about.  I know I drove my husband nuts, cause I would bitch and he would say ” so do something about it”.  And I never really would.

When my weight hit the highest it had ever been, I knew I had to do something.  When all my clothes were so much tighter and I was getting 3x clothes, I knew I had to do something.  I knew I had to do something DIFFERENT.  I was telling myself I had to do something, falling into the same routine and then it happened.  My friend starting telling me about these classes she was taking.  I am thankful everyday that my friend Jamie introduced me to Befit, where I workout and my amazing coaches.  It was the right program for me at the right time.

For each of us, we need to find what works for us.  Christ, it took my 14 years to find what works for me and something I can dive into and something I can progress at.

But honestly, if YOU cannot commit to YOU, why should anyone else?  It has taken me such a long time to understand and really realize this.

Its my hope that along this journey, someone else may take those baby steps sooner than they would have to better themselves.

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So yes, busy week, but you know I am hitting the gym! Worked out last night, tomorrow and Thursday, and even Saturday before the wedding.

NO EXCUSES! NO BULLSHIT!

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Another night of Lunges from Hell….

I swear one of these days, you will read an entry and I will not be bitching about lunges.  But not today 🙂

Sweet Baby Jesus! Walking weighted lunges tonight .  Ugh.  Poor Coach Dan, he gets me on lunge night 2 weeks in a row.  But I gotta tell ya, he was great. Pushed me and I finished all 6 rounds.

SO – yup = Progress!

Finished all 6 rounds AND did not come crashing down! Even more Progress !

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I am sure I had an attractive face like this fellow here when doing them, cause of course working hard means funny grueling faces.  Its like we think that making some dumb ass face will make the move be easier?  Thank goodness we are not posing for Vogue, lol.

 

 

As much as I hate Lunges, I know working on them more will benefit me in the end.  Its pretty bad when you prefer to do Burpees instead of Lunges.

I was freaking dying during the workout, but now that I have recovered, lol, I feel darn good that I finished. I am very thankful my coach let me take the extra time to finish.  I had to keep swimming to get it done!

I can say for the first time, in a long time, maybe ever, that I AM PROUD OF MYSELF! I am doing things I have never done before. I am taking chances. I am believing in myself.  And the best part – I am losing weight and inches!

I have said it before and I will say it again – why the frack did I wait so long to get off my ass?!?!

Happy Lunging all 🙂

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Pull – ups – My Phantom Menace

I have a new nemesis – Pull Ups. I can’t friggen do them.  I can barely do ring rows instead.  I need to get my upper body strength better.  I have so much weight to ” pull up”  So – we have a new goal.

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My modification for the pull ups is ring rows.  Ring rows for those who are unaware, is when you have your hands in rings, then lean back and move your feet in , then pull your self up .  See the pic below.

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This particular exercise is terrifying for me as the reigning Mayor of Fatty McButterpants City.   I have to hold myself up on these little nylon straps and pray they hold as I struggle to pull my self up.  I feel as if the whole rig is gonna topple over on me.  I know it won’t , I think it is bolted to the floor, but when you are using your own weight and you have a lot of it, any thing is possible, especially things snapping and breaking.  You know what I mean, that wobbly chair, you look at it and it crumbles to pieces.  You sit your ass in the car and the whole side goes wayyyyyy down.  Forget about sitting in those little kid chairs at Parent Teacher Conferences, HA! Its easy when you have a big butt to break things with it.

The sad thing is, as someone who is larger, this is what I think about.  I can’t wait until I don;t have to think about it. I am well on my way.

If  I looked at this like I was defeated, Sweet Baby Jesus, where would that leave me?  I WILL do it, maybe not soon, but I will.

 

SO yeah, Star Wars reference, the fam loves Star Wars, especially my oldest.    I thought it was a good way to tie them in 🙂

 

Gotta keep up the swim folks!!! We will get there!

 

Meg 🙂

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Dear God make me a bird…..

I’ll admit it, I am frustrated .  Very frustrated, irritated and wee a bit down.  Tonight’s work out had running elements in it.  Running. Ugh. The thing is, I WANT  to run. I WANT to run well. I WANT to run a 5k.  My issue is I am so damn fat that running isn’t even what I do – its more of a saunter-jog with the end result being some sort of cardiac arrest.   And I get that – for now I am very content to do my own thing and go along at my own pace.  I always finish – usually way after everyone, but that is okay.

My frustration comes from my calves.  They freaking kill me 2 minutes into the run.  I have been doing stretches and got some great advice from the coach tonight, but it is like a hurdle I cannot get over.   I have the drive to do it – to finish last if you will , but my body giving out and not allowing me to do it is not allowed.  I have been working so hard and to have a hiccup like this is such a ball breaker and spirit killer.

Of course I know things will get easier as the weight comes off.  Its just a kick in the pants when it pertains to a goal you have.  And I know I am probably making it seem worse than it actually is. I hope doing all the stretching I have learned will ease it up, too.

I WILL KEEP GOING. I WILL GET THROUGH IT.

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